Q. I am a little stuck at moment,I need confirmation about this person I met a year and half ago.I felt even before we met the he is part of my twin ray here on earth. When we reconnected it was amazing but we are not together anymore his choice of panic and manipulation by his ex;but nonetheless he tries to keep in touch; it feels for both that it’s meant to be, we avoid seeing each other as the energies can get really intense. He is also constantly in my dreams, why?
A. Being in relationship is one of the greatest challenges that humans have to deal with. And, the closer to your heart the person comes, the greater the risk of feeling pain. The greater the love – the greater the potential for pain. This does not seem to make sense from your perspective, but from here, it makes perfect sense.
What I expect you are doing right now is trying to avoid the pain of letting go and feeling loss. So you hang onto the hope that things will work out and you will feel all the love you desire and not the pain that you are at risk of feeling. You humans are masters at doing everything you can to avoid pain.
That pain when you perceive that you have lost love has come from the pain that you have felt since you left “home” to go to planet earth to learn about love. The reason you are here is to learn about love and what greater way to learn than through relationship with others.
You will all meet people on your journey that you feel a great love for. You spend time together and learn and share love. Always there is a time that you must part either through separation or through death as you know it when you transition from physical form. Every relationship on earth ends at some point. And you have learned to associate endings with great pain. And, indeed this is the case.
The reason for the great pain is that you perceive that you also lose the love that you had for each other. But this is not the case. The greater the pain that you feel, the greater the love that has been in the relationship. These are your greatest teachers about what love really is.
But they are not your only teachers. People come and go throughout human lives as you learn what you need to learn from each person and then move on. These learnings can be painful, but they are part of your growth process.
Know that in coming times, you will more easily learn to leave a person and maintain the love that you feel for them for you do not need to stop feeling love when the person is no longer in your life. Hang onto what you have learned about love from these special people, for these lessons are so important as you continue on your journey.
The easiest way to find yourself in a fully loving relationship with another is to get into a fully loving relationship with yourself. We know you have heard this before, but there is truth in this statement. When you yourself are full of love for yourself, you attract others who are full of love for themselves and they do not need to rely on others to feel loved. Think about this.
Remember that people come and go as you need them in your life to help you learn and grow. This is part of the human condition. If you truly want love, learn to love yourself and learn that you are loved by your guides, angels, teachers and God. Once you have found this kind of lasting love, you will find total fulfillment in every relationship and will no longer feel that you have a need for love from other humans.
Blessings on your journey,
Mary, your divine mother